As our online social networks grow we will encounter more and more people offering us opportunities. Plus as many of us are finding as our online networks expand our real life meetings and presence also grows. We become bigger people playing a bigger game. We all acknowledge that things are speeding up exponentially too. 3 times as much sharing and connecting is going on than just a year or so ago.
Please take real note and be present with everyone who comes into your life. None of it is co-incidence. Appreciate them and learn from their lessons that they bring. They are your Angels you see.
Angels can come in all guises. At 1.30 am today a Korean hairdresser many years younger than me began talking to me in a queue to get into a popular club in Roppongi, Tokyo. She suggested that we try another club nearby which was not full. 3 hours later we had spent all our money on shots. Ultimately a very unsatisfying experience. No follow through. No benefit in it for either of us. Something in retrospect I should have definetely said no to. So all in all a telling lesson. I could be angry with myself for this but I have learned that the only state to revert to is intense gratitude.
She was an angel you see. An angel teaching me to say no. To transfer the lesson here to the social media world as the connecting grows and our stars rise more and more opportunities will come our way. Our ultimate success in this multiconnected and fast paced world will be determined by what we say no to. We cannot be everything to everybody.
Saying no will help brand us more. Focus on things that are in your niche and say no to anything else. It will also increase the power of your intention. Is the opportunity directly aligned with your life purpose?
If no say no.
As a concrete real life example I am regularly asked by people to give them social media strategy and/or run their accounts. There is no leverage whatsover in this for me. The only time I will do this is if they are a worthy cause that I can see making a serious daily attempt to make things happen on social media themselves.
You will make your own list of criteria for saying something and I hope you continually narrow those criteria as your success grows.
The internet is stil pretty much a blank canvas or playground for use to create magic on. The recent phemomenon that is Pinterest is an example. It is all a matter of imagination and follow through. So look for opportunities to come your way more and more. Say yes by all means but not too often.
The big factor driving this are the increased ability of algorithms to discover who should be talking to and working with you and thus increasing connection. I truly believe we are living at a special time.
My true reach according to the Klout algorithm has gone from 8 k to 77k people in the past 6-7 weeks. Wild connecting or what?
The massive increase in sharing is due to scheduling and better understanding of tools. For example if we do the same 1 hour online that we did say 18 months ago then we can schedule a whole magazine like amount of content to drip from our various social networks in the next 24 hours. So information, concepts, inspiration and opportunities are passing by our eyes faster and faster each day. To be a person of value you will also need to continually tighten your niche and content sharing strategy and what you say yes to also brands you as everything we do is highly public these days.
It seems at first very negative to be suggesting that you say no. Actually it is highly positive.